tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post2509920934845991461..comments2023-09-09T08:47:03.151-04:00Comments on Glum Bunny: In which I am overwrought and hyperbolicbunnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07197167351148883584noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-64497298363827058492010-01-27T12:33:16.197-05:002010-01-27T12:33:16.197-05:00Really sorry to hear this was such a miserable exp...Really sorry to hear this was such a miserable experience for you. I don't understand the RE's attitude. Even if he is right (re more IUIs), he needs to rethink his approach, and explain better, and not be so cavalier. <br /><br />In any case, I read since then you've decided to go for another IUI. So for lack of any wisdom, I wish you all the best with that.twangyhttp://twangypearl.typepad.com/twangypearl_the_elastic_g/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-50208460911374704552010-01-27T09:52:56.386-05:002010-01-27T09:52:56.386-05:00Shit, shit, shit. And shit. I hate this for you, a...Shit, shit, shit. And shit. I hate this for you, and I'm so sorry. Seriously, does the universe ever give us infertiles a break? What makes me feel exasperated is your RE's attitude--it feels ambivalent, like a "meh" and a shrug. Yech.<br /><br />When we were told to go straight to IVF (do not pass go, do not collect $200), the hubster asked the RE why not give IUIs a shot, at least try that. Her response: "I wouldn't be helping you at all by doing that." Obviously our situations are different, but I'm interested in your REs opinion of how ultimately helpful--just how further you will move the ball up the field--with IUIs. It's not a matter of him *minding* doing it, it's a matter of his professional insight into how effective he believes this approach will be. I know you know this, duh. I just want shake your RE by the shoulders. Urgh. <br /><br />After my own little (okay, not so little) overwrought and hyperbolic moment last week I realized that it really does take some time to digest all this info, and to distill all the chaotic stuff in your head down to your original goal. I agree with Jen that time will bring you the clarity you need. In the meantime, we're all here with you, boosting you along, championing whatever you decide.<br /><br />(sorry about the deletion up there! typo issue!)Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133740026125341736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-18400059918467532902010-01-27T09:50:36.462-05:002010-01-27T09:50:36.462-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133740026125341736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-41410719457253006562010-01-27T09:44:41.372-05:002010-01-27T09:44:41.372-05:00bunny, I am so sorry for this news. i was hoping ...bunny, I am so sorry for this news. i was hoping that your husbands rosy outlook was accurate.<br /><br />Like JB said, after the initial shock of the news you will be able to figure out what the right next steps. Listen to your instincts - you will know what comes next. We're here for you.ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-72740197356561060872010-01-26T19:08:33.594-05:002010-01-26T19:08:33.594-05:00Oh Bunny I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry you d...Oh Bunny I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry you didn't get good news from your RE. I wish I knew what to say or what advise to give but I don't. Just know I'll be thinking of you and whatever you decide will be right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-2987441374357676892010-01-26T19:03:50.150-05:002010-01-26T19:03:50.150-05:00I have no idea what to say to make you feel any be...I have no idea what to say to make you feel any better, except that there are lots of people out here rooting for you. I hope that helps a bit.finchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13517411348405651768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-70531278310967013292010-01-26T17:46:24.698-05:002010-01-26T17:46:24.698-05:00Did he mention possibly treating the fibroid with ...Did he mention possibly treating the fibroid with progesterone? I've heard that estrogen causes them to grow and progesterone can possibly help them shrink. It might be worth looking into at least, especially if you don't want to rush into surgery (which I can't imagine anyone would be excited about).<br /><br />So sorry you didn't get better news :(.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-50072488162283668442010-01-26T17:24:08.420-05:002010-01-26T17:24:08.420-05:00Sucks, sucks, and so sorry.
I always had a reacti...Sucks, sucks, and so sorry.<br /><br />I always had a reaction like that in the immediate aftermath of getting bad news...but it usually cleared a bit within a week or two, such that the choice I wanted became more clear to me. <br /><br />You have two options right now: 1) continue a few more cycles with IUI, and if no luck, move on to surgery to prep for IVF three months later, or 2) skip the IUIs and do the surgery now, so you can start IVF in 3 months from now. There's evidence floating around Google University that it takes on average around 6 IUIs to get pregnant. So there's that. But, if you get that far and still are not pregnant, you will be set back a few months from wasted IUIs. I would give it a little time, see if it clears in your head at all. Also think about the time of year you'd be doing each of these things in either scenario. And find out what coverage you have for IVF, and how you might finance it if needed. More data might also help you decide.<br /><br />Here's the bottom line: Whatever you decide is right. I know it all feels so fucking wrong, but you've made it this far, you know what your options are, and whichever you choose is right. For you. <br /><br />It will be okay, promise. *crossing heart*JBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17493045268452808663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574024265786913951.post-85842540999485625872010-01-26T17:16:15.228-05:002010-01-26T17:16:15.228-05:00Ugh, I am so sorry *hugs* I'm sorry you got ba...Ugh, I am so sorry *hugs* I'm sorry you got bad news at that appointment. Could you get a second opinion from someone else with a more positive outlook?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com